A Sex Contract?

I logged in the other day to the strangest of request. I was asked to sign a sex contract. Not like I have time for this anyway, BUT I still said no. The details were hilarious and when asked why in the world anyone would want to do this, I was told because we were challenged that we couldn't hold out. HMMM maybe I am getting ahead of myself a little bit..... Let me start from the beginning.

A few weeks ago, I had a conversation with people who shall remain nameless about sex in SL and what is considered too much. What is actually important to a person? Is it the fact you can log on and have that release? Or do you require something a little more meaningful behind the act. Be able to sit and talk for hours without doing a thing with the other or be able to go exploring or shopping. What is important to you? The thoughts about this have been running through my head lately. I do enjoy being alone because that requires no commitment on my part. I do enjoy commitment.... and I am committed to my blog. What happens if I add in an additional commitment? Would my blog suffer? Would I be unhappy if that happened? No, you are right, this has nothing to do with a sex contract BUT it lead up to it.

When I logged in, I said hello to the group of soon to be prudes like I always do, and was immediately sent a sex contract and the ladies were asking me to sign it also. This contract states that the person who signs will NOT commit any sexual act until the new year begins. The only way that this contract can be broken is if you enter into a marriage with said gentleman. There were several flags at first.

1. Why would anyone want to say no sex? Why would anyone want to limit themselves?
2. What reason do I have to sign something like this and would I ever be able to keep it?
3. I will not marry someone just to be able to have sex with them. RIDICULOUS!

Soon after, as I began asking questions, I was sent a TP to join in the group discussion of this contract. Shortly after arriving, I realized that basically the men challenged the women that they could not keep their legs closed. The fun banter went back and forth when the men teasing the women saying they could not possibly hold out against them. I kinda am with the men on this one. Would it be bad for me to give them ideas to tease the ladies with? At this point, I run to the kitchen to grab popcorn because I could just tell where this was going. After even further conversations it was determined that they would not only hold out till the new year but take it an extra step and hold out until marriage, which for this particular couple won't come until the spring or summer more than likely. I was in shock. Some kind of 21st century chastity belt (thanks for that analogy). WHO has ever heard of someone doing this in SL???? I sat there in disbelief trying to talk them out of it. Who am I to decide what they do as a couple? I have no idea!!! I just felt like to myself that this wasn't going to be a very good idea. This is SL after all.... which lead me to a completely different subject...

Who determines WHAT or HOW we live our SL? Who said that sex had to be a part of it? I know several people who have no clue where sex sims are even at. If you ask others who are not in second life about second life their first response is "Oh yeah that online sex game." Was it people like me who wouldn't dream of saying no sex or refraining that caused this mentality? I know I have a ton of interest in SL. Ranging from photography, my blogging, fashion, and exploring. In the morning I can go have a snow ball fight and in the afternoon I can go surfing if I choose to. There is no other place that you can attempt to do this. That has always marveled me about SL.

To some, sex in SL can be an extremely sensitive subject. I have noticed the older a person is in SL the more sensitive they grow on the subject. I myself can say that I have much different views on the subject now than I did 3 years ago when I actually first started SL. Maybe it's the experiences one has that make them jaded on a subject or it could be with age, who knows? Yes this post is a little strange from what I usually do but I welcome the topic... There are also a ton of questions in this blog to make you think and also questions I have asked myself. Please, I welcome the discussion about what you feel on the topic in SL.